Grown places to party

I am seriously tired of going out and the atmousphere is totally unbearable. I need space and a nice spot to chill when I am not dancing. There are few spots like this in NJ and Philly but the music is not that good. I need to vibe to some good hip hop, reggae as well as club music mixed really smoothly getting a good dose before switching styles, I need to get into and in order to do that they have to play a couple of songs in the same genera.